Wednesday, June 21, 2017

Sticks and Stones

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WORDS... have power.

Do your "words" build others up or cut them down?

Do you "think" before you speak?

We all have habits, personalities and emotions that try to sabotage relationships. But God wants us to control our impulsive outbursts.

Every thought is not meant to be spoken.

The more of God's Word that goes into our minds and hearts, the less likely we are to use words that are demeaning, cutting, show anger and resentment, spew frustrations,  and give lessons of ridicule.

And, the more we pray, the less likely we are to allow hurtful "words spoken into us" to turn us into the very personalities that brought us down to start with.

It can be a vicious cycle.

My Prayer:

"Lord, help me to repel harsh words, hurtful innuendo, sharp tongues and bitter slander. Instead, empower me to return evil with good. Strengthen me to love those who don't know the power of words and who don't practice taming the tongue. Help me to purge bitterness so that I don't become the very thing I loathe. Show me how to gently teach others how to take hold of their tongues so that they don't destroy the relationships that they so long to have by their own device. It is ONLY through your peace, power and prompting - Holy Spirit - that I will be able to swim upstream in a world of "words" that seek to destroy the souls (mind, will and emotions) of men. In Jesus Name, Amen"



Have ever you heard this saying?

“Sticks and stones may break my bones but words can never hurt?”

It’s a familiar phrase, but nothing could be further from the truth!

Ephesians 4:29, which says…

“Let no corrupt word proceed out of your mouth, but what is good for necessary edification, that it may impart grace to the hearers.”

Let’s break Ephesians 4:29 down for better understanding:

1) NO CORRUPT WORD – Proverbs 18:21 says that, Death and life are in the power of the tongue,
And those who love it will eat its fruit.

2) WHAT IS GOOD – Gossip? Negativity? Sarcasm? Perverted? Foul? Cursing? Screaming? Yelling?

3) FOR NECESSARY EDIFICATION – To build up! People need to be built up!

4) IMPART GRACE – Undeserved FAVOR!

So, do your words… build others up… or, do your words sometimes tear others down?

A word spoken out of turn can be so DISCOURAGING.

Certain WORDS can be:

· Paralyzing…

· Demeaning…

· Hurtful…

· Sharp…

· And, just Plain Out Ugly!

In fact, WORDS THAT STING can even be DEADLY!

That is why it is so important that we meditate on God’s Word - daily.

As we fill our hearts with words from above, our mouths will speak of good things!

So let’s pray like David, “Lord, Set a watch before my mouth and keep the door of my lips.”

… Because, just like sticks and stones… WORDS can hurt!

EPHESIANS‬ ‭4:29, 31-32‬ ‭AMP‬‬

“Do not let unwholesome [foul, profane, worthless, vulgar] words ever come out of your mouth, but only such speech as is good for building up others, according to the need and the occasion, so that it will be a blessing to those who hear [you speak].
Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor [perpetual animosity, resentment, strife, fault-finding] and slander be put away from you, along with every kind of malice [all spitefulness, verbal abuse, malevolence]. Be kind and helpful to one another, tender-hearted [compassionate, understanding], forgiving one another [readily and freely], just as God in Christ also forgave you.”

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Monday, June 19, 2017

Love is a Verb - Love Never Fails

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Ask God to help you LOVE the unloveable... even if it's your spouse.

Love is an ACTION, not a feeling.

God's love changes things.

God's love being manifested in your ACTIONS changes things.

Don't say, "I tried that and it didn't work."

God DID NOT say, "TRY to love the unloveable."

God DID SAY, "live a lifestyle of loving."

Love suffers long.

How long?

As long as it takes.


Do you show forth God's love?

Broken people do broken things.

Sinners sin.

Try praying for the salvation of your spouse.

Separation is not good. It gives the devil more room to work.

Separation is only good as a last resort, or in the case of physical abuse.

Separation does not mean divorce.

Why be so quick to quit? God's timetable and your timetable are not the same.

Never allow physical abuse to harm you or your children.

Ask God the root of the problem.

Pray for the root cause to be healed. Believe for God's best.

God hates divorce; because, divorce hurts people.

But you say, "I'm hurting, so I want a divorce."

In most cases, divorce doesn't solve the problem, it only changes the problem.

Patience. Time. Wait on the Lord.

The devil is after your seed (your children).

The devil loves divorce because he gains access to the souls (mind, will and emotions) of your children - perhaps for a lifetime.

Continue to LOVE in spite of the pain.

God is FOR your marriage.

God is FOR your family.

God is FOR the souls of men.

Maybe... you were CALLED for "such a time as this?"

Will you say, "If I perish, I perish?"

This DOES NOT mean a physical death. But, maybe some things, some agendas, some plans, some careers need to be laid on the altar for a season to the saving of your family.


Marriage is not easy.

Your marriage should be a reflection of your covenant relationship with the Lord.

Does God give up on you?

Would you quit your relationship with the Lord if your blessings dry up?

Would you ever divorce your children if they were in gross rebellion?

Is your spouse not just as much a part of your life as your children?

Love Never Fails. - 1 Corinthians 13:8


Fight the good fight of faith.

Be careful who you let speak into your life.

If you want to win the battle, get counsel from someone who has been there and won.

The devil is crafty. He uses "words" to convince God's children to quit.

Your family, your testimony, your future, your life is worth the fight.

Don't quit!


"Well done thou good and faithful servant."

1) If you are already divorced, there is no condemnation. Pray and ask God to heal everyone involved (including your ex, the third party and your children). 
2)This post is intended to save marriages.
3) If you are divorced and praying for reconciliation, we will believe with you, and for you.
4) If you are in a physically abusive relationship, please get help immediately.

Revelation 12:11 (KJV) - And they overcame him by the blood of the Lamb, and by the word of their testimony; AND THEY LOVED NOT THEIR LIFE UNTO THE DEATH.


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Thursday, June 15, 2017

Activate Your Faith!

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Faith Without Works is Dead!

James 2:14-24 NKJV

"What does it profit, my brethren, if someone says he has faith but does not have works? 

Can faith save him? 

If a brother or sister is naked and destitute of daily food, and one of you says to them, “Depart in peace, be warmed and filled,” but you do not give them the things which are needed for the body, what does it profit? 

Thus also faith by itself, if it does not have works, is dead.

But someone will say, “You have faith, and I have works.” 

Show me your faith without your works, and I will show you my faith by my works

You believe that there is one God. 

You do well. Even the demons believe—and tremble! 

But do you want to know, O foolish man, that faith without works is dead

Was not Abraham our father justified by works when he offered Isaac his son on the altar?  

Do you see that faith was working together with his works, and by works faith was made perfect? 

And the Scripture was fulfilled which says, “Abraham believed God, and it was accounted to him for righteousness.” 

And he was called the friend of God.  

You see then that a man is justified by works, and not by faith only."

Tuesday, May 30, 2017

Celebrate Pentecost

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Have you WAITED for the Lord to baptize you with His Spirit?

Have you been BAPTIZED IN WATER after the repentance of your sin? (Acts 19:4 - John's Call to Baptism)


Have you been endued with POWER to overcome sin and endued with POWER that supernaturally equips you for service in God's Kingdom on earth (something God does, not something man has taught you to do)?

Did you know that PENTECOST is June 4, 2017? (See dates from 2010-2025 below)

The word "Pentecost" comes from the Greek word "pentekostos," meaning "50."

In the Old Testament, the Pentecost feast took place 50 days after Passover in celebration of God’s gift for the 10 commandments to Moses.

In the New Testament, the day of Pentecost is a time of celebrating the power of the Holy Spirit and the birth of the Christian church. Pentecost for the believer is 50 days after the Easter resurrection (or, 7 Sunday's after resurrection Sunday).

The Pentecost celebration also signifies freedom from the bondage of sin. Power to overcome sin. Power to live in the fullness of God's blessings. And... power to witness throughout the ends of the earth!

Did you know that over 500 people saw Jesus after He was crucified, but before He ascended? (These 500+ people saw a dead man raised to life!)

1 Corinthians 15:6 - "After that, he was seen of above five hundred brethren at once ..."

But... even though over 500 saw this miracle (a dead man raised to life), only 120 actually WAITED on the promise that Jesus spoke of to take place in the UPPER ROOM.

Acts 1:4-5 - "And (JESUS before His Ascension), being assembled together with them, commanded them that they should not depart from Jerusalem, but WAIT for the promise of the Father, which, saith he, ye have heard of me. For John truly BAPTIZED with water; but ye shall be BAPTIZED with the Holy Ghost not many days hence."

Acts 1:15 - "And in those days Peter stood up in the midst of the disciples, and said, (the number of names together were about an HUNDRED AND TWENTY)..."

So... ARE YOU one of the 380 or one of the 120?

Jesus has invited "all" believers to WAIT and be BAPTIZED WITH THE HOLY SPIRIT AND FIRE.

There is nothing spooky about receiving all that God has for you. There is nothing scary about the Holy Spirit coming upon you.

God wants us to fully surrender to His Spirit. He wants us to WAIT and/or HAVE HANDS LAID UPON US to receive this beautiful gift from above.

Acts 19:2-6 - "He (Paul) said unto them, HAVE YOU RECEIVED THE HOLY GHOST SINCE YOU BELIEVED?

And they said unto him, We have not so much as heard whether there be any Holy Ghost.

And he said unto them, UNTO WHAT THEN WERE YOU BAPTIZED? And they said, UNTO JOHN'S BAPTISM.

Then said Paul, JOHN verily BAPTIZED WITH THE BAPTISM OF REPENTANCE, saying unto the people, that they should believe on him which should come after him, that is, on Christ Jesus. When they heard this, they were baptized in the name of the Lord Jesus. And when PAUL had LAID HIS HANDS UPON THEM, the HOLY GHOST CAME ON THEM; and they spake with tongues, and prophesied."


Acts 1:8 - "But ye shall RECEIVE POWER, after that the Holy Ghost is come upon you: and ye shall BE WITNESSES unto me both in Jerusalem, and in all Judaea, and in Samaria, and unto the UTTERMOST PARTS OF THE EARTH."

Acts 1:13-14 - "And when they were come in, they went up into an UPPER ROOM, where abode both Peter, and James, and John, and Andrew, Philip, and Thomas, Bartholomew, and Matthew, James the son of Alphaeus, and Simon Zelotes, and Judas the brother of James. These all continued with one accord in prayer and supplication, with the women, and Mary the mother of Jesus, and with his brethren."

Acts 2:1-4 - "And when the day of PENTECOST was fully come, they were all with one accord in one place. And suddenly there came a sound from heaven as of a rushing mighty wind, and it filled all the house where they were sitting. And there appeared unto them cloven tongues like as of fire, and it sat upon each of them. And they were all filled with the Holy Ghost, and began to speak with other tongues, as the Spirit gave them utterance." 


When is ...?Date     Day of the week       
Pentecost Sunday 2010     May 23, 2010     Sunday     
Pentecost Sunday 2011     June 12, 2011     Sunday     
Pentecost Sunday 2012     May 27, 2012     Sunday     
Pentecost Sunday 2013     May 19, 2013     Sunday     
Pentecost Sunday 2014     June 8, 2014     Sunday     
Pentecost Sunday 2015     May 24, 2015     Sunday     
Pentecost Sunday 2016     May 15, 2016     Sunday     
Pentecost Sunday 2017     June 4, 2017     Sunday     
Pentecost Sunday 2018     May 20, 2018     Sunday     
Pentecost Sunday 2019     June 9, 2019     Sunday     
Pentecost Sunday 2020     May 31, 2020     Sunday     
Pentecost Sunday 2021     May 23, 2021     Sunday     
Pentecost Sunday 2022     June 5, 2022     Sunday     
Pentecost Sunday 2023     May 28, 2023     Sunday     
Pentecost Sunday 2024     May 19, 2024     Sunday     
Pentecost Sunday 2025     June 8, 2025     Sunday     

Wednesday, May 24, 2017

Silence is Golden

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In teaching marriage classes and doing biblical counseling, I have found that the biggest problem with most couples is their mouth.

In an effort to communicate, some speak their mind to the fullest extent, not realizing that every thought is not from God... not to be repeated... and, not healthy conversation.

Wrong words, finger pointing, accusations, negative outlooks, and hostile remarks only stir up strife. Friend, God's way is contrary to our impulsive, fleshly behavior. Self-control is a must if you want to cultivate healthy relationships.

Learn to listen more and talk less. Practice being slow to anger.

The devil is busy creating oppressive scenarios, throwing darts of skepticism and releasing the spirit of jealousy. His tactic is to get us offended. Then, once we are weakened by his evil blow, he assigns a horde of demons to fan the flames of anger, resentment, rage and wrath.

Don't allow the devil to push your buttons! Practice being quiet. Pray first. Talk second. And, speak in shorter, more impactful sentences that give God glory. Going on and on about a thought or feeling does not convince the other person of your need; but instead, only dulls their hearing. THEY TUNE YOU OUT!

Long, drawn out, conversations of discontent only acerbate the situation.

Yes, many times, silence is best. In fact, the Lord promises to fight our battles for us - if, we will just trust Him. And, learning to trust God requires self-control.

James says we are to be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry. Taking God's Word from the pages of our Bible to real life application can certainly be a challenge, but it is definitely doable. It all comes down to prayer and obedience.

Are you praying?

Are you seeking to be obedient?

Will you allow the Holy Spirit to have His way? Or, will you barrel through with patronizing, condemning, hateful and sarcastic words... because, you deserve it? Because you feel the need to vent? Because, it's just the way you are?

If you desire to have more friends, if you want to have a healthy marriage, or, if your goal is to be a person of influence, practice LISTENING.

Practice thought management.

Practice response delay.

Practice word filtering.

Every conversation does NOT require a response. Sometimes, silence is best. Learn to ponder thoughts more... and, speak less. God will increase your effectiveness in communication as you obey His precepts.

#Listen #SpeakLess 

Tuesday, May 16, 2017

Fertile Ground Produces Miracles!

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In need of a miracle today?

Miracles happen in fertile ground.

That is, a life that has been washed in the blood of Jesus...

A person who's heart is turned toward The Lord...

A soul that is free from bitterness, anger and resentment...

Someone who is EXPECTING God's favor...

A person who sows seed into others... time, love, resources, respect, forgiveness, money...

Friend, God wants to show up, and show out, in your life TODAY. 

Your job is to simply get the soil of your life prepared, so that He has a place to manifest His goodness.

“For the eyes of the Lord run to and fro throughout the whole earth, to shew himself strong in the behalf of them whose heart is perfect toward him." 
- 2 Chronicles‬ ‭16:9 KJV

“For the eyes of the Lord are over the righteous, and his ears are open unto their prayers: but the face of the Lord is against them that do evil.” 
- 1 Peter‬ ‭3:12‬ ‭KJV‬‬

“Behold, the eye of the Lord is upon them that fear him, upon them that hope in his mercy;” 
- Psalms‬ ‭33:18‬ ‭KJV‬‬

“The eyes of the Lord are upon the righteous, and his ears are open unto their cry.” 
- Psalms‬ ‭34:15‬ ‭KJV‬‬