Tuesday, March 14, 2017

God's Love

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This is LESSON ONE of the Woman2Woman: The Naomi and Ruth Experience Bible Study, found on page 19.

God’s Love


The greatest truth in the universe is that God is love.  The greatest discovery for a woman is to awaken and realize that God loves her.  The most important decision a woman can make is to acknowledge and accept God’s love for herself in a personal way.  God’s love is called “grace,” and it is expressed in these terms:  undeserved mercy, forgiveness, acceptance, favor, care, help, compassion, tenderness, patience, comfort, protection, and provision.

In what ways can you recognize God’s grace toward you?

Jeremiah 31:3
3The LORD hath appeared of old unto me, saying, Yea, I have loved thee with an everlasting love: therefore with loving-kindness have I drawn thee.

Genesis 1:27-28
27So God created man in his own image, in the image of God created he him; male and female created he them.
28And God blessed them, and said unto them, Be fruitful and multiply, and replenish the earth, and subdue it:  and have dominion over the fish of the sea, and over the fowl of the air, and over every living thing that moveth upon the earth. 


Many times, as women, we settle for cheap imitations of love, which use and abuse us – leaving us cold, hard, and afraid.  Since God deliberately created each woman with her own special features and beauty, women are very valuable to Him.  By His design, a woman's deepest need and strongest desire is to be loved and cherished. There is a place in every woman's heart that only God can fill and nothing – nor, no one – can replace her relationship with Him.  Only He can satisfy. 

Just as God respects us, he expects us to respect Him, each other, and ourselves.  God intended for men and women to co-exist in a respectful, meaningful partnership with Him and with each other while here on earth. God is the author of “mutual respect.”

According to God’s original plan – based on Genesis 1:28 – God loves and blesses women and gives each of them purpose and power to live full, productive lives.  His best for us is often hindered when we allow the wrong people, or things, to substitute for His love in our heart.

Name some destructive attitudes or relationships that compete for God’s place:

Do you understand the term, “boundaries,” and how they are necessary to insure mutual respect?  If so, describe the type of boundaries that you need to uphold in your life.

1 John 4:7-11
7Beloved, let us love one another, for love is of God; and every one that loveth is born of God, and knoweth God.
8He that loveth not knoweth not God, for God is love.
9In this was manifested the love of God toward us, because that God sent his only begotten Son into the world, that we might live through him.
10Herein is love, not that we loved God, but that he loved us, and sent his Son to be the propitiation for our sins.
11Beloved, if God so loved us, we ought also to love one another.

1 John 4:19
19We love him, because he first loved us


God always takes the first step and offers us a proposal of genuine love.  1 John 4:10 says that even while we were still clueless and bound by our sin (with no respect for God), He sent us His Son, Jesus, to save us from the very penalty that God’s law demands for our disobedience.  In essence, God’s love saves us from His own wrath and judgment.  His amazing love (salvation through Jesus Christ) is a free gift with no strings attached!

When we can identify the “real thing,” then we will not be deceived by counterfeit affections.  When God reveals His love, we can trust in it forever. He will never neglect us, abandon us or treat us cruelly. By the same principle, when someone shows you his or her true colors - believe it. Loving hearts act in loving ways.  Anything else is not love.  Without God’s love, it is impossible to know or give true love, because God is the source of love.

Based on verses 7 and 8, of I John 4, can you determine if your actions are based on love?  Explain.

Can you recognize genuine love verses manipulation?  Explain.


At the mall or in our neighborhoods, even in our own families, we see women who disrespect themselves and live with the mentality that they are just doing what they have to do to survive.  While some crave attention at any price, others are caught in terrible circumstances of poverty and desperation.  In their weakness, they fail to make decisions based on honor, hard work, and morality.  They experience everything except genuine love, and they tolerate disrespect from others.  God desires to rescue hurting women today.  He offers hope through His Son, Jesus Christ, who graciously wants to heal broken hearts and broken lives.  No matter how horrible the circumstances, those who call on His name find forgiveness, wholeness, courage, significance and peace.  God restores their honor and self-respect and His love empowers them to rise up to a level of life that is rewarding.

What areas of your life do you need to trust in God’s love?

What steps do you need to take to deal with disrespectful and unhealthy relationships?


No matter where we have come from or what advantages or disadvantages we have been given, God loves us, and invites us to receive and trust in Him.  No matter who has wronged us, hurt us, or betrayed us, God is faithful. 

In order for us to fully trust in God's love for us, we must start by believing the greatest truth in the universe…God is love!  Then, as we talk to Him and tell Him everything on our heart (good and bad) we will begin to experience the relief and peace that His love brings to all who rest in His goodness.  Because of God's great love for us – and, His desire to manifest His love toward us – we should expect the unexpected in both practical and supernatural ways.  God is the giver of wonderful surprises!

Discuss how God has revealed His love in an answered prayer for you.

Romans 8:35-39
35Who shall separate us from the love of Christ?  Shall tribulation, or distress, or persecution, or famine, or nakedness, or peril, or sword?
36As it is written, For thy sake we are killed all the day long; we are accounted as sheep for the slaughter.
37Nay, in all these things we are more than conquerors through him that loved us.
38 For I am persuaded, that neither death, nor life, nor angels, nor principalities, nor powers, nor things present, nor things to come,
39Nor height, nor depth, nor any other creature, shall be able to separate us from the love of God, which is in Christ Jesus our Lord.


Study 1 Corinthians 13:1-8,
which defines the true characteristics of love.


Ruth’s story is a love story in the purest sense.  It depicts the mutual love of two women who share in bonds of suffering and redemption.  It is also about a deep love between a man and woman in the highest portrayal of mutual respect and devotion.   And most importantly, as a portrait of grace, it reveals the divine mutual love between God and his people.

The story serves as a tremendous example of God’s supreme faithfulness to those who love and trust Him, as He powerfully moves in the mysterious realms, unfolding His master plan in human hearts.

Ruth and Naomi, both poor widows with no one to help them, were in desperate need of someone to save them from their despairing lives.  Ruth’s commitment to her mother-in-law, Naomi, caught the eye of wealthy landowner, Boaz, and her humility captivated his heart and prompted a marriage proposal.  His passion for Ruth turned things around for the women.  Boaz, who came to be known as her kinsman-redeemer, returned the kindness that Ruth showed to Naomi.  He rescued them from destruction and led them into a place of loving favor, peace, provision, and protection, which is a beautiful picture of the same type of relationship that Christ desires to share with us. 

Dr. Patricia Shankle is a contributing writer for this lesson.

Saturday, February 25, 2017

Booking Tips

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Booking the perfect Christian, inspirational and/or motivational speaker or talent for your next event can be an overwhelming task... and we are here to help you!

Questions like:

"Where do I find a speaker?"
"How much will it cost to contract a professional speaker or artist?"
"Can I afford the speaker that seems perfect for my event?"
"What are the expectations of a professional speaker/talent?"

To help ease your mind, we have created some Booking Tips that will help you get the speaker you really want, who will make your event come alive with rave reviews.


PREPARATION PRAYER - When booking a Christian speaker or talent, you want to be sure that you contact and secure the person that the Lord has prepared for your event. For this reason, you and your board need to spend some time in prayer asking the Lord to point you in the right direction. Then, move forward with expectation that the Lord will bring it to pass as you trust Him for the provision needed to serve Him with excellence. 

TIME - Predetermine your event dates and a general idea of your event timeline before contacting your speaker. It is impossible for a speaker to let you know if they can book your event without knowing the date/days/hours/timeline that you expect them to be available. Remember, most professional speaker calendars are filled anywhere from 3 months and even up to 3 years in advance, so you'll want to contact your speaker/talent and lock them in with a deposit and contract RIGHT AWAY.

EXPERTISE - A speaker/talent fee or honorarium is not an hourly fee. Ministry professionals spend countless hours researching, studying, practicing, and preparing for their presentations. In addition, many vocal and musical artist have invested years into fine tuning their craft. It is not practical, nor possible, for most speakers/talent to perform every night in a different location; otherwise, their families would suffer and, therefore, their ministry would be in vain. Speakers and artists must feed their families, keep their ministries afloat and live on the income generated from their willingness to step out in faith to follow the call of ministry on their life. As an event planner, it is important to keep a generous heart and willing spirit toward your speaker/talent. When you do, God will honor your event in a greater way. 
BUDGET - Before you contact a speaker or artist for your event, be sure that you are prepared to talk about money. This seems to be the most uncomfortable part of the booking process for many volunteer event planners. Most speakers and artist have a place on their initial Booking Form (usually found on their website) for you to insert your budgeted amount that you and your board have in mind to spend on your speaker. Do NOT leave this section blank. Christian speakers - unlike secular motivational, inspirational speakers - oftentimes have an unspoken sliding-scale fee chart. In other words, some speakers have a flexible honorarium by which they may take into consideration travel time involved, length of the event, number of talk(s), preparation time, your budget and/or the size of your group.

MORE ABOUT MONEY - As an event planner who is in charge of Booking A Speaker Or Talent, you have a unique opportunity to be a blessing in the same way that you expect your speaker to bless your group. Not only should your organization seek to be generous by budgeting in a standard speaker fee, but you also need to factor in things like mileage or airfare, food and accommodations - for two. While some speakers travel alone, many travel with an assistant. And remember, if you are looking to book a speaker to bring 4 messages, it will most likely cost more than if that same speaker only brought one message. In the same way, if your speaker is required to be at an event for three days, yet they only speak once a day, that speaker will probably require more to justify their time away from home. 

SPEAKER FEES - Although speaker/artist fees can be all over the board (ranging from $50.00-$50,000.00+), typically you can expect to book a professional Christian speaker or artist for $500-$5500 per day. Of course, bands and groups will range a little higher depending on how many are in their group. Plus, speakers who are in high demand may be considerably more expensive.

PROTOCOL - Professional, Christian communication is so important when contacting a speaker. It is very frustrating to the speaker when an event planner makes an inquiry and then never follows back up. The speaker is then left with not knowing whether to tentatively save their date or to give it to the next inquiry. As a common courtesy, always let speakers/talent know what is going on behind the scenes during the booking process. Things like, "I'm talking with my board and I'll get back with you by Friday" or "Thank you so much for your time but we have decided to use another speaker/talent this time." And... if you tell them that you will get back with them by Friday, please do it, even if you still don't have the final information needed to complete the booking. 

DEPOSIT & CONTRACT - Most speakers will require a 10-25% deposit to secure your date. It is best to send in the deposit and booking agreement form (contract) within 5 business days after agreeing upon the terms for your speaker. This way your date does not get taken by another event planner. Even if your speaker is coming to you on a "love offering" basis, good business practice and common courtesy should include sending in a financial binder with your booking agreement. Your deposit and/or binder may also include things like mileage, food per diem, airfare tickets, hotel confirmation numbers, etc. Never expect a speaker/talent to drive from city-to-city, or state-to-state, without providing them with the appropriate funds needed to arrive at your event prepared, at peace and on time. 

WHAT IS A PER DIEM? - A per diem is simply an allowance or payment for each day's expenses. For instance, if you've booked a speaker who will be spending a day, or even a half day, traveling to your event, you should provide a per diem for them to get food, drinks, snacks or other necessities along the way. Once your speaker arrives, you will either want to provide meals, snacks and drinks or continue to provide a per diem for them to survive while there. In addition, you'll want to take care of their return home by providing a per diem. A good event planner should "offer" a per diem of $25-$50 per day, per person - depending on how many assistants or band members are traveling with that speaker and how much travel time is involved. Some speakers may have a required per diem while some may not. Either way, it is good practice to provide for your guests. 
LOVE OFFERING ONLY - As a general rule, speakers and talent who are contracted for a special event, conference, retreat, concert, community event, and so on should be booked by providing a set speaker fee. Love offerings may be acceptable for speakers if the event is confined to a Sunday morning service or a revival; of which, they are the only speaker/talent who will be receiving a love offering. Never ask a speaker to come and split a love offering with another guest speaker/talent unless that love offering is in addition to their agreed upon speaker fee. Generally, all male crowds or mixed crowds (male & female) will give more liberally than all female crowds. For this reason, many female evangelists don't have an issue with speaking on a love offering only basis when it is for a Sunday service or a church wide revival. Special events, however, usually work best when contracting by speaker fee.

DETAILS - It is so important that the event planner provides clear information many weeks before an event concerning the EVENT ADDRESS, DIRECTIONS, CONTACT NUMBERS, ETC. Very Important: Always provide a cell number that can be reached if the speaker/talent needs to call during travel. Don't leave your speaker/talent wondering about your city trying to find your location and they cannot reach you by phone and/or text. In addition, give your speaker/talent a clear description (on paper) about the timeline, theme, their specific role, etc. Spectacular events are all about the details!

MARKETING - It is up to the individual event planner to market their own event. Most speakers/talent have high resolution photos, bios and other files that are either available on their websites or are available to email to you once your booking is confirmed. These materials are vital in marketing and advertising your event with professional standards. If desired, once you have created your marketing materials, many speakers will help you market your event on their website, social media and other outlets if you provide them with branded materials well in advance. Things like: custom website banners, slogans, artwork that you are using to advertise your event and so on. In addition, many speakers/talent are happy to give radio and/or television interviews that you might be able to set up for your event - if time allows. Be creative in getting the word out!

WAITING PRAYER - If you are hosting a Christian event and you want God to move, you must bathe your event in prayer months before it ever happens. Then, once you've done all the planning and preparation that you know to do, you can relax knowing that it will all work out for His glory and the good of everyone attending. At your event, allow God to move! Pray for Him to move and then be willing to follow His move... because when He shows up He usually does the unexpected! 

WELCOME & SUPPORT - When your speaker and/or talent arrives it is so important that you make them feel welcome! Remember, you know who they are and what they look like because you have been all over their website reading their articles and looking at their pictures... but they don't know anything about you. Be sure to have someone assigned to making sure that your speaker/talent is taken care of at all times.

DEPARTING GIFT - Departing gifts are such a blessing! Speakers come on the scene and share personal things about their life. They have made themselves vulnerable before your group. Be sure to finish up your event by presenting your speaker with a departing gift. It doesn't have to be anything extravagant, but it should be something that is well thought out. For instance, if your speaker is flying back home after your event, a book, iPod, ear buds, professional travel tote, special key-chain, leather journal, gift cards, make-up, jewelry or some other small, practical gift would be appropriate. If your speaker is driving back, you can give a slightly larger or more bulky gift such as a gift basket. But really... the most practical gift that carries the biggest blessing is to take up a love offering at the end of your event (in addition to the agreed upon speaker fee). Remember, you cannot outgive God. He will always give back to those who are generous and grateful - especially toward ministers of the gospel! 

DEPARTING PRAYER - Always, cover your speaker/talent in PRAYER before they leave. Pray for safe travels, blessings, protection from scorners, mockers and nay-sayers, open doors of opportunity and increased anointing, financial blessings and pray for their families!

Thursday, December 22, 2016

Making America Great Again!

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Thursday, November 17, 2016

A Standers Affirmation

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I will not give up, give in, give out or give over ’til that healing takes place. I made a vow, I said the words, I gave the pledge, I gave a ring, I took a ring, I gave myself, I trusted GOD, and said the words, and meant the words… in sickness and in health, in sorrow and in joy, for better or for worse, for richer or for poorer, in good times and in bad…so I am standing NOW, and will not sit down, let down, slow down, calm down, fall down, look down or be down ’til the breakdown is torn down!
I refuse to put my eyes on outward circumstances, or listen to prophets of doom, or buy into what is trendy, worldly, popular, convenient, easy, quick, thrifty, or advantageous… nor will I settle for a cheap imitation of God’s real thing, nor will I seek to lower God’s standard, twist God’s will, rewrite God’s word, violate God’s covenant, or accept what God hates, namely divorce!
In a world of filth, I will stay pure; surrounded by lies I will speak the truth; where hopelessness abounds, I will hope in God: where revenge is easier, I will bless instead of curse; and where the odds are stacked against me, I will trust in God’s faithfulness.
I am a STANDER, and I will not acquiesce, compromise, quarrel or quit. I have made the choice, set my face, entered the race, believed the Word, and trusted God for all the outcome.
I will allow neither the reaction of my spouse, nor the urging of my friends, nor the advice of my loved ones, nor economic hardship, nor the prompting of the devil to make me let up, slow up, blow up, or give up ’til my marriage is healed.
– Author Unknown

Tuesday, November 1, 2016

Vote for WHAT and Not WHO!

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We are not really voting for "Who," instead, we are voting for "What." In order to vote according to the Bible, we must look at the POLICIES and the PRINCIPLES before we look at the person. After all, the policies and principles will remain in effect long after that person leaves the office.

For those that are still unsure, let's start with the obvious known policies that are in direct opposition to God's Word: 

  1. Abortion 
  2. Same Sex Marriage 
  3. Men in Women's Bathrooms 
  4. Winking at ISIS or any other enemy 
  5. Debt (the curse of Deut. 28 is to be a slave to the lender)
I know... these topics are tough issues. All of us (me included) have sinned and fallen short of God's glory. BUT, the good news remains that the only thing we must do to be forgiven is to repent and AGREE WITH GOD.

Friend, once we die, we ALL face the final judgment of God. Our opinions can't save us, our agendas can't save us, our religion can't save us, our money can't save us, our political party can't save us and even our good works cannot save us from the truth of God on that final day.

America - as a whole - needs to AGREE WITH GOD and stop playing mind games with right and wrong before it's too late. God's judgment will begin ON EARTH for America if His people remain stffnecked and hard headed about truth.

Precious friend: If you are gay, if you've had an abortion, if you live in debt, or even if you are a man who identifies as a woman, know that God has given each one of us the freedom to choose any lifestyle that we please. He might not approve it, but He does give us that choice. It's our right as a human being who is made in the image of God to freely choose how we live our life on earth.

Even so, God's best plan is for each of us is to live in the freedom that He has always planned for us. A freedom that has no consequences. A freedom that brings joy and peace, not shame and guilt.  The God of Heaven and Earth graciously forgives each of us who confesses our sin and turns to Him as our Savior and Lord. He wants to wipe our slate clean and give us all a fresh new start - if we will just AGREE WITH HIM.

As a NATION (One Nation Under GOD) we are to uphold biblical truth in order to have peace and not chaos in our land.

When the lines of right and wrong are moved, the people will eventually perish.

FRIEND, all people want to live in peace, prosperity and freedom - no matter their opinion, gender, religion or lifestyle. Consequently, the only way to have this kind of harmony among the vast multitudes of individuals within a nation is for the people to live under the banner of God's truth. His truth is the standard that we should use for governmental rule. In fact, the founders of this great nation thought so, and that is why they layed the foundation for our country through our constitution. Our godly foundation has made us the greatest nation on earth in a short amount of time.

Again, we don't have to be perfect individuals who live under this foundation, but we do need to be a people who fears God and values policy and principle above agenda, personality, or party. We don't even have to understand how it all works, we don't necessarily have to be in right standing with God as an individual and we don't need to rush to change our lifestyle in order to fear God and respect Him as The Final Authority.

The key is just to start somewhere... to start with the respect for the God that we "do know."

God loves EVERYONE. But, He does not allow stiffnecked people to spit in His face. If America votes for policies and principles that are contrary to His Word, America will inevitably suffer the judgment of God.

Yes, God will give us what we deserve. He will allow us to go down to the pit if we think we have a better way.

And yet, He will also pour out His blessing if we stand for what is right. God will fight our battles for us. He will work everything out for our good and His glory.

BUT, He will only do this if we are respecting His Word and trusting His heart. If we have a better way... He will leave us alone to search it out for ourselves. And... how foolish is that? To have a better way than the God of all Creation?

There has been enough political correctness in this country already. It's well past time for right and wrong to be valued and for truth to be upheld.

Pray, America, Pray!

And, be sure to Vote the Bible!

Be brave. Be truthful. Be different.




Monday, October 31, 2016

Praying for America!

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I'm praying for our country. Praying that God's people will vote for true godly "policies" instead of voting for what seems to be godly policies in the eyes of the world. Neither candidate is a saint, but God uses the foolish things to confound the wise.

Think about the future of this country. Think about our children and grandchildren. Think about America's freedom, safety, strength, and power. Don't let agendas, fleshly desires, politics, party affiliation, color of your skin, or your current paycheck over-rule common sense and good judgment when casting your vote.

America is not a lazy - entitlement country. America is a hard working country where people can be anything they want to be. This country was built on godly principles from our forefathers who thought it was wise to use God's Word as the standard for right and wrong. If we allow our core values to be stripped from our courthouses and our Whitehouse, we open the door for America to spiral downward to the lowest state... like other Godless countries who have suffered the consequences of their sin through wars, violence, poverty and suffering.

The American people have been brainwashed for far too long concerning political lie's and corruption. It's time to make a stand for righteousness EVEN IF YOU ARE NOT A CHRISTIAN! All people, Christians and non-Christians alike want peace, prosperity and freedom. And... freedom is NOT free. Freedom will cost you something.

Will YOU pray and truly ask God how to vote. Many of you may need to jump ship and vote a different party this time. (If it's not working... it's time for a change.)

Trump was NOT my first choice but he is definitely my final choice. He is not perfect. He may seem prideful and arrogant. Sure, he has been married at least three times and has been caught talking vulgarly about women. (But... what MAN who is not tempered by the Holy Spirit has not done the same thing?)

Trump is a smart man. He has godly values... even though he may, or may not, be a godly man. He understands finances. He understands the importance of keeping our constitution in tact. He understands the importance of ALL LIVES (including those in the womb). He understands boundaries and strength. And... he is not running for money, fame or political gain. He is running for one reason and one reason only... TO MAKE AMERICA GREAT AGAIN!

Only God knows the heart of a person. We, as people, can only judge by their actions and track record. Hillary has a lot of negative baggage concerning her leadership. Her liberal values are NOT in line with godly standards. Yes, she is a polished politician, BUT this does not make her a wise leader.

Trump is not polished. He is REAL. He is smart enough to seek after the wisest counsel and to implement leaders who are experts in their field.

After all, we are not voting for a preacher, we are voting for a President. We are voting for someone to "lead" our country into safety, prosperity and peace.

Let's make America Great Again! 

The Foolish to Shame the Wise
1 Corinthians 1:
"Because the foolishness of God is wiser than men; and the weakness of God is stronger than men. For ye see your calling, brethren, how that not many wise men after the flesh, not many mighty, not many noble, are called: 27But God hath chosen the foolish things of the world to confound the wise; and God hath chosen the weak things of the world to confound the things which are mighty; 28And base things of the world, and things which are despised, hath God chosen, yea, and things which are not, to bring to nought things that are: 29That no flesh should glory in his presence. 30But of him are ye in Christ Jesus, who of God is made unto us wisdom, and righteousness, and sanctification, and redemption: 31That, according as it is written, He that glorieth, let him glory in the Lord."