Wednesday, May 24, 2017

Silence is Golden

Bookmark and Share

In teaching marriage classes and doing biblical counseling, I have found that the biggest problem with most couples is their mouth.

In an effort to communicate, some speak their mind to the fullest extent, not realizing that every thought is not from God... not to be repeated... and, not healthy conversation.

Wrong words, finger pointing, accusations, negative outlooks, and hostile remarks only stir up strife. Friend, God's way is contrary to our impulsive, fleshly behavior. Self-control is a must if you want to cultivate healthy relationships.

Learn to listen more and talk less. Practice being slow to anger.

The devil is busy creating oppressive scenarios, throwing darts of skepticism and releasing the spirit of jealousy. His tactic is to get us offended. Then, once we are weakened by his evil blow, he assigns a horde of demons to fan the flames of anger, resentment, rage and wrath.

Don't allow the devil to push your buttons! Practice being quiet. Pray first. Talk second. And, speak in shorter, more impactful sentences that give God glory. Going on and on about a thought or feeling does not convince the other person of your need; but instead, only dulls their hearing. THEY TUNE YOU OUT!

Long, drawn out, conversations of discontent only acerbate the situation.

Yes, many times, silence is best. In fact, the Lord promises to fight our battles for us - if, we will just trust Him. And, learning to trust God requires self-control.

James says we are to be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry. Taking God's Word from the pages of our Bible to real life application can certainly be a challenge, but it is definitely doable. It all comes down to prayer and obedience.

Are you praying?

Are you seeking to be obedient?

Will you allow the Holy Spirit to have His way? Or, will you barrel through with patronizing, condemning, hateful and sarcastic words... because, you deserve it? Because you feel the need to vent? Because, it's just the way you are?

If you desire to have more friends, if you want to have a healthy marriage, or, if your goal is to be a person of influence, practice LISTENING.

Practice thought management.

Practice response delay.

Practice word filtering.

Every conversation does NOT require a response. Sometimes, silence is best. Learn to ponder thoughts more... and, speak less. God will increase your effectiveness in communication as you obey His precepts.

#Listen #SpeakLess 

Tuesday, May 16, 2017

Fertile Ground Produces Miracles!

Bookmark and Share

In need of a miracle today?
Miracles happen in fertile ground.
That is, a life that has been washed in the blood of Jesus...

A person who's heart is turned toward The Lord...
A soul that is free from bitterness, anger and resentment...
Someone who is EXPECTING God's favor...
A person who sows seed into others... time, love, resources, respect, forgiveness, money...
Friend, God wants to show up, and show out, in your life TODAY. Your job is to simply get the soil of your life prepared, so that He has a place to manifest His goodness.

“For the eyes of the Lord run to and fro throughout the whole earth, to shew himself strong in the behalf of them whose heart is perfect toward him." 
- 2 Chronicles‬ ‭16:9 KJV

“For the eyes of the Lord are over the righteous, and his ears are open unto their prayers: but the face of the Lord is against them that do evil.” 
- 1 Peter‬ ‭3:12‬ ‭KJV‬‬

“Behold, the eye of the Lord is upon them that fear him, upon them that hope in his mercy;” 
- Psalms‬ ‭33:18‬ ‭KJV‬‬

“The eyes of the Lord are upon the righteous, and his ears are open unto their cry.” 
- Psalms‬ ‭34:15‬ ‭KJV‬‬ 

Ten Lepers

Bookmark and Share

Ten Lepers

One glorifies God and is made WHOLE!

In Luke 17:11-19, Jesus heals ten lepers. But, the one leper who turned back and glorified God with a LOUD VOICE was made whole! 

Have you turned back with a LOUD VOICE since the Lord used this ministry to bless you, heal you, save your marriage or save your soul? 

Friend, if you have been a student of this ministry for any length of time, it is God's protocol that you pour back into the well from which you have been drinking.

When you glorify God with a LOUD VOICE of GIVING, you set yourself up for receiving the fullness of what God has for you. 

Nine lepers received a partial healing. But, one leper was made whole.

Will you be made whole? Will you have faith enough to step out of your comfort zone and become a partner with this ministry?

As you pour into our well, we promise to continue to pour back into you!

One Time Gift...          

Want to make a bigger impact? Partner with us.

Give Each Month...    
Button for Giving / Partnership

DRM (dba): 
Woman2Woman Ministry 
Save It! Marriage Ministry 
Choose Life Radio 
Prison Ministry / Remnant  

501 c 3 non-profit

We Really Need YOUR Help!

THANK YOU so much for sowing seed into this ministry. This is fertile ground that will bring forth 30, 60 and 100 fold blessings to the sower as-well-as to those who are ministered to throughout the year. Expect God's favor.

1 Timothy 6:17-19 (NLT)

"Teach those who are rich in this world not to be proud and not to trust in their money, which is so unreliable.

Their trust should be in God, who richly gives us all we need for our enjoyment.

Tell them to use their money to do good.

They should be rich in good works and generous to those in needalways being ready to share with others.

By doing this they will be storing up their treasure as a good foundation for the future so that they may experience true life." 

Friday, May 12, 2017

Bertram & Ross Facebook LIVE!

Bookmark and Share

Bertram & Ross Consulting Seminar

Cultivating Kingdom Professionals


Inspiring, equipping and cultivating Kingdom professionals through quarterly seminars and yearly conferences with expanded opportunities through bureau listings, networking, affiliations and teams.

EVENT LOCATION – May 19-21, 2017
Bertram & Ross Consulting Seminar Training Location
27 Plantation House Drive
Bluffton, SC 29910 • USA



ü  3 Ring Binding Notebook with front and back pockets
ü  Ink Pens / Pencils
ü  College Ruled – 3 Subject – 120 Sheets Composition Book
ü  Laptop or I-Pad – if you have one
ü  Your business cards – if you have them
ü  Copy of your letterhead – if you have one
ü  Copy of any brochures, one sheets or fliers that you might have about your ministry – not required
ü  Tote to carry your supplies
ü  Swimsuit or Romper (Robin has a pool!)

ü  Electronic PDF’s and/or Pass out materials
ü  Power Points
ü  Lots of information on taking your ministry to the Next Level
ü  Water, Tea
ü  Snacks
ü  Light lunch



5:00PM – Arrive at Plantation House Drive
5:30PM – Opening Vision / Purpose & Announcements – Robin & Deborah  
6:00PM – Define & Refine Your Brand – Deborah
6:30PM – Define & Refine Your Brand with Networking – Robin   
7:00PM – Monetize for Success – Deborah
8:00PM– Capitalize on What You’re Currently Doing – Robin
9:00PM – Question / Answer Session – Robin & Deborah


9:30AM – Arrive at Plantation House Drive
10:00AM – The Business of Your Ministry – Deborah
11:00AM – Write A Book Proposal / Get Published – Robin
12:00NOON – Lunch  / Talk
12:30PM – The Art of Speaking – Deborah
1:30PM – Secrets to Social Media Success – Robin
2:30PM – Get Booked / Make Money – Deborah
3:30PM – Building Brand Awareness on Social Media – Robin
4:30PM – TV / Radio – Why; When; How; What; Who; Where; Wear – Robin & Deborah
5:30PM – Question / Answer Session – Robin & Deborah 
6:30PM – Dinner Outing as a Group – Pay Your Own Way



Life Group Class – Robin’s Church
Community Bible Church
638 Parris Island Gateway, Beaufort, SC 29906
Church: 9:15AM
Robin’s Class -11:00AM
Leave Bluffton at 8:15AM  (Robin sings in the choir)

Group Lunch Outing After Church – Pay Your Own Way

1) Success Weekend - Full Day and 1/2 of training from Robin Bertram and Deborah Ross
2) Two Hour Phone/Zoom/Face time Consultation After the initial Weekend Seminar (1 hour with Robin & 1 hour with Deborah)
3) One Free Year Listing on the Remnant Speakers website (upon approval)
4) Radio Interviews (from our PDF / handouts)
5) TV Interviews (from our PDF / handouts)
6) Resource PDF's
7) Get your book introduced to an agent (no guarantees that you will get signed)
8) Get FREE PRODUCT from Robin Bertram and Deborah Ross
9) 15% Discount on a brand new DRM Christian Website  = 
10) 10% Discount for One Year with The Pic Ninja =
11) Opportunity to take continuing classes and specialty seminars with Bertram & Ross Consulting at a discount 
12) Opportunity for TV/ Radio placements for a fee – upon approval.
13) SPEAKER TRAIN: Opportunity to apply for the Win-Win Remnant Speaker Team.  Our Speaker Train is for selected seminar participants who qualify for benefits of association, affiliation, mentorship, advertising, promotion, booking opportunities, additional free B & R Consulting Seminars, marketing and branding. The Elite Remnant Speaker Team member maintains their own ministry with their own vision and mission. The Elite Remnant Speaker Team is not an agency but rather a ministry hub or bureau. There is a yearly fee and marketing/branding requirements to be on this team. See:

What Is It About?
Take your ministry to the next level.
Gain years of knowledge, contact information, how to, do's and don’ts, experience and wisdom in one weekend!
1) Business/Ministry Set-Up & Focus
2) Define (your message, motive, purpose, vision, and mission)
3) Refine (style, image, couture, makeup, and hair)
4) Branding/Marketing/Website
5) Social Media – Proven techniques to cost effectively drive followers and engagements.
6) Radio/Television
7) Writing & Publishing
8) Speaking Protocol (Why, How, What, When)
9) Get Booked! Get Paid.
10) Role Play & Critique (Becoming YOUR best YOU!)

Failure Isn't Failure

Bookmark and Share

Lately, I've noticed several Facebook posts of people who say they are depressed, lonely, sad, disappointed, tired, frustrated, or in some other negative frame of being. Granted, the devil is after your peace, your joy and your purpose; but he is a liar, a thief, and a distracter.

The Lord is your strength! The Lord is your joy! The Lord has GOOD THINGS laid aside that have your name on them! God is for you!

Let me remind you today that every good thing in life is worth fighting for. In fact, the example we see over and over in scripture is where God's people are required to persevere in spite of giants, enemies, opposition, failure and even in spite of consequences to their own sin.

Sometimes, you've got to ENCOURAGE YOURSELF in the Lord. Pull yourself up by your bootstraps and force yourself to act like who God says you are instead of who the naysayers say you are. Friend, through prayer, bible reading and PARTICIPATION with Kingdom protocol, you are more than a conqueror!

It's not over until God says it's over and He is always working all things out for your good! He has a roadmap of blessings prepared just for YOU!

So, if you've experienced a setback, disappointment, roadblock or any negative outcome from your previous efforts, remember... this is only a test!

Press on! Failure is NOT failure unless you stop trying!

“My brethren, count it all joy when ye fall into divers temptations; Knowing this, that the trying of your faith worketh patience. But let patience have her perfect work, that ye may be perfect and entire, wanting nothing.”
James 1:2-4 KJV


Thursday, May 11, 2017

Communication is Key

Bookmark and Share

As many of you know, I teach marriage classes each week at my church and I also offer Biblical counseling in my office. One thing I find to be a common thread in resolving marital conflict is the need for better communication skills.

Learning to communicate better with your spouse is really just the practice of being more like Jesus in your everyday life. With that being said, there are a few key phrases to remember when it comes to communication:

  • Listen More
  • Talk Less
  • Stop Accusing 
  • Be Honest
  • Speak the Truth in Love
  • Give Undivided Attention
  • Care About the Thoughts and Feelings of Your Spouse
  • Get Rid of the "I" and Focus on "The Lord"
  • Leave the Final Outcome in God's Hands

Let's start with listening more and talking less.

So often, I find that one - or both - in the relationship talks waaaay toooo muuch! First of all, you don't need to give a play-by-play of every detail of why you are upset about a situation. Learn to use fewer words with greater impact. Learn to have a conversation that is two way... not one-way. Practice listening to your spouses heart. Then, if you still disagree, make your case with kind words that don't need to be said in book form. Less is often more in effective conflict resolution.

Now, if you want your spouse to hear you out, DO NOT speak with accusations and tones of sarcasm.

What would Jesus do? Would He tear down or build up? Jesus would be honest and He would speak the truth in a loving way. Granted, there were times that Jesus spoke with authority and righteous anger, but that was always a last resort. And, even so, He didn't go on... and on... and on. Learn to speak your peace and then be quiet. Silence really is golden at appointed times.

When listening to your spouse, learn to really listen and really care about their thoughts.

Practice stopping. Lay down the gadgets. Turning off the TV.  Learn to sit down and L-I-S-T-E-N. There is something really sweet in giving your undivided attention to your husband, or wife, on a daily basis. While this may seem impossible to do during the course of a busy, hectic day, it CAN be practiced in the first 30 minutes, or last 30 minutes, of your day when a habit of being INTENTIONAL about your marriage is put into place.

The biggest problem facing couples today is the self-centered, broken soul who is always looking to fulfill the "I" instead of the "US."

Ask God to help you empty yourself of selfish ambition to embrace the team work of family. Really, our Christian walk should be a life of emptying ourselves of the "I" and filling ourselves with "Him." Transform your mind with God's Word and pray that the Lord will help you to empty your selfishness and embrace your "two becoming oneness."

Lastly, learn to leave the outcome in God's hands.

The Bible says, having done all... STAND. There is a time to speak and there is a time to keep quiet. Many couples never let their words marinate in the heart of their spouse because they operate in fear instead of faith. In doing so, they end up badgering their spouse and therefore dulling their hearing. God is more than able to play your words over and over in the mind of your spouse if you deliver those words correctly and then bathe those words in prayer. Learn to Trust God!

In the Garden of Eden, Adam and Eve were naked and unashamed before sin entered the picture. They were not only physically naked, but they were also completely transparent in their thoughts. The goal of a good marriage is to be naked and unashamed with each other - in every way. It may not happen overnight (no pun intended), but as you learn to participate with God in your communication skills, your marriage can grow into one that is transparent, loving, pure and joyful in your everyday LIFE.

Join me on Facebook at:


Monday, April 17, 2017

Faith VS Fear

Bookmark and Share

Will you have the audacity to take God at His Word? 

Hebrews 11:1 (KJV)

Now faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen.

Did you know that you've got to have faith in order to have fear?  Sounds crazy, I know. But, it actually takes just as much energy to doubt and live in fear as it does to live in faith. In fact, fear, doubt and unbelief is your faith power working in the negative position!

Friend, faith produces substance. It produces evidence. God's Words says so.

In the same way that faith produces substance, fear, doubt and unbelief produce substance - or the lack thereof. 

So why spend another minute meditating on the wrong thing? Why allow your mental and emotional energy to create something undesired? 

As we meditate on God's Word - and what He says about us, for us, through us and to us - we re-program our minds to live in the faith zone. And, the faith zone is the place where the desires of your heart become a reality (Psalm 37:4).

God has good plans for you! He wants to see you live out your days going from glory to glory in all areas: spiritually, physically and mentally. 

But... His protocol for achieving this "land of milk and honey" requires faith. Positive faith. Faith in His Word. Faith in His good pleasure. Faith in who He made you to be. Faith in your abilities as a Child of the King. 

So, don't spend another minute in fear (negative faith). Read your Bible. Pray. Encourage yourself (David did this). Practice casting down thoughts of negativity. Practice replacing fearful thoughts with faith filled thoughts of the Great "I Am." 

Just do it! Take God at His Word. Be brave. Be courageous. Be bold. Be radical.

Shut out the nay-sayers. Close the door to the devil. Demolish wrong thoughts. 

And, watch God transform your every area of existence as He creates substance that gives evidence of your thought life!

Facebook: #DeborahGRoss #DeborahRossMinistries #Woman2Woman #HealingABrokenMarriage #Thoughts