Tuesday, June 5, 2012

Freedom Today Beach Conference 2012


FREEDOM TODAY BEACH CONFERENCE
August 31- Sept. 2, 2012
Sea Trail Golf Resort & Convention Center
Sunset Beach, NC

FreedomToday.TV with Robin Bertram and Deborah Ross is hosting an anointed Bible & Worship Conference for women... and men. Come experience radical, life-changing, solid biblical teaching that offers solutions for life's everyday trials.

Releasing triumph over tragedy, this conference encourages personal growth and intimacy with Jesus Christ.

In addition to our full retreat style women's event, the Freedom Today Beach Conference includes a bonus package for the man in your life, as well. Jay Ross and Ken Bertram will be leading a men's golf outing along with breakout bible study sessions in the board room... for men only!

Oh yeah, be sure to check out our guest speakers and worship leaders on our website.

This conference is the perfect end of summer retreat for everyone!

For more information on how YOU can participate, CLICK HERE

To reserve your special conference hotel rates, go to www.seatrail.com

The Freedom Today Television Show and Retreat Conferences offer REAL PEOPLE, real solutions that are found only in the Word of God.

See you there!

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Freedom Today Conference Schedule

BONUS - Freedom Today Conference attendees who choose the extended stay option are invited to join us from 5:30-7:00pm at The Boundary House Restaurant for a time of fellowship and good food. (Everyone pays for their own meal)




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YOU HAVE OPTIONS!

The Freedom Today Beach Conference is offering a special husband's golf package that includes FREE breakout Bible Study Sessions with Ken Bertram and Jay Ross, conference meals, and inclusion in our Co-ed worship services. If you choose to make this beach conference double as a couples/family holiday by taking advantage of these low conference rates and low golf rate packages, consider an extended stay through Monday, Sept. 3rd... or even longer!
Enjoy the beach, shopping, golf, spas and more. The choice is yours!


See you there!

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Robin Bertram - TV Producer / Show Host & Author of Shadows Among Us


Deborah Ross - TV Producer / Co-Host & Author of Healing a Broken Marriage


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Monday, May 28, 2012

Effectual Fervent Prayer that Avails Much


BIBLE TRUTH

The power of prayer is often misunderstood among those that are lost and without Christ.  Quite often, prayer is neglected by many Christians, as well, because they don’t fully understand the significance of what their prayers can accomplish through faith.  From a human’s point of view, it seems that because God is all-knowing, all-powerful, ever-present, and all-wise, prayer is futile.  After all, what difference could our prayers ever make in swaying the God of all creation’s decision on how to govern our everyday lives? 

While this is a valid question that everyone has held in their heart at some point, God’s word assures us that we are very important participants in how His Kingdom operates on earth.  The power of prayer, as it is mixed with faith, can completely change the course of history in an individual, a family, an organization or a nation.     

Are you in the habit of praying to God on a daily basis?   
     


1 Kings 8

 45Then hear thou in heaven their prayer and their supplication, and maintain their cause.
   46If they sin against thee, (for there is no man that sinneth not,) and thou be angry with them, and deliver them to the enemy, so that they carry them away captives unto the land of the enemy, far or near;
   47Yet if they shall bethink themselves in the land whither they were carried captives, and repent, and make supplication unto thee in the land of them that carried them captives, saying, We have sinned, and have done perversely, we have committed wickedness;
   48And so return unto thee with all their heart, and with all their soul, in the land of their enemies, which led them away captive, and pray unto thee toward their land, which thou gavest unto their fathers, the city which thou hast chosen, and the house which I have built for thy name:
   49Then hear thou their prayer and their supplication in heaven thy dwelling place, and maintain their cause,
   50And forgive thy people that have sinned against thee, and all their transgressions wherein they have transgressed against thee, and give them compassion before them who carried them captive, that they may have compassion on them:

A DEEPER LOOK

Easton’s Bible dictionary describes prayer as intercourse of the soul with God.  Effective prayer that touches the heart of God should be intimate, sincere and humble.  Furthermore, in order for our prayers to move the hand of God, we must believe that He is a God who wants to answer our petitions with favor (Hebrews 11:6). 

The word supplication means to humbly plead our case before a holy God.  Additionally, prayer and supplication (as described in the Bible) should always include repentance of known sins.  When our repentance is combined with a deep crying-out to the Lord for His mercy and grace upon our situation, His loving-kindness reaches into the human atmosphere of time to bring about miracles of change in our lives.  God promises to be near to, and to save those, with a broken and contrite spirit (Psalm 34:18).

Verses 45 and 49 (1 Kings 8) uses two words to describe how we get God to hear us.  What are these two words?   ____________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________

What do you think Solomon meant when He asked God to “maintain their cause” as stated in verses 45 and 49 of 1 Kings 8?
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List the stipulations for attaining God’s favor through prayer that Solomon describes in 1 Kings 8:47-48?
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James 5:16

16 Confess your faults one to another, and pray one for another, that ye may be healed. The effectual fervent prayer of a righteous man availeth much.

WORKING IN YOUR LIFE

According to the dictionary, the word effectual means that something is capable of - or successful in - producing an intended result.  The meaning of the word effectual also encompasses the enforcing of a legal or binding document.

With this being said, James (the half brother of Jesus) is telling us that as we confess our faults one to another and pray for one another, we position ourselves to be healed by God.  James goes on to teach us the importance of approaching God’s throne with a clean heart when asking something of Him.  He tells us to be passionate and enthusiastic in our belief system knowing that our Heavenly Father will act according to His word for bringing about blessings in our lives.  In other words, according to James 5:16, there are conditions to getting our prayers answered favorably.

What are the five conditions that James 5:16 describes for praying prayers that availeth (profit) much?
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REAL LIFE EXAMPLES

In Matthew 6:5-13 and again in Luke 11:1-13, Jesus gives us an example of how we should pray.  He begins by warning us against impure motives and thoughts of wishing to be seen and heard by others who will then think we are super spiritual.  Jesus tells us that the only reward that can be expected by someone who prays a pious, religious prayer is that of earthly recognition.  God will in no way act upon a hypocritical concern or insincere petition uttered from the lips of any well meaning human being who has impure motives.

The prayer that Jesus models for us is not meant to be recited with a cold heart of memorization.  Instead, the Lord’s model prayer should be viewed through the eyes of the Holy Spirit for understanding the pattern for which Jesus explains how we should arrange our thoughts when talking with Adoni (The Lord Who is God / Master / Ruler). 

1)      First, Jesus tells us to address God by His Holy Names (Hallowed be Thy Name) which define His character. (Matthew 6:9)
2)      Then, Jesus goes on to tell us to pray for heaven to manifest on earth because that is God’s will.  (Matthew 6:10)
3)      Next, we should ask our petition of God.  (Matthew 6:11)
4)      As we petition God for our needs, we should confess our sins to Him.  We must also be willing to forgive everyone that we have held a grudge against – no matter how just our bitterness may seem to be in our own eyes.  (Matthew 6:12)
5)      We should pray that God will always make a way of escape for us so that we will not fall into the devils traps of temptation.  Pray that God will remind us to repent daily from all wrong doing and pray that we will be empowered to avoid doing wrong in the first place.  (Matthew 6:13)
6)      Lastly, acknowledge that God is able and willing to answer our prayer and totally change the natural laws of our bodies, our land or our circumstances in order to bring about a miracle on our behalf and for His glory.  This is according to the many promises found in God’s word that should be hidden in the heart of every child of the King.  (Matthew 6:13)   

Why do you think it is important for us to call out the names of God at the beginning of our prayer time?
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In light of the Lord’s Model Prayer, how do you view God’s will for us on earth?
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MAKING IT HAPPEN!

According to 2 Chronicles 16:9, the Lord is seeking someone to bless!  Our part in the matter is to remain humble, righteous and holy in all of our ways.  There are no specific rules to follow for accomplishing a favored stance before the Lord during prayer.  His only requirements are that of sincerity, repentance, faith, and humility.  The Lord desperately wants to commune with us in prayer.  He wants us to worship Him with childlike faith that is not ashamed of outward praise and adoration.  Whether kneeling, standing, laying prostrate, hands lifted high, head bowed low, crying, singing or shouting, God wants us to be real with Him in all of our ways.  In return, He promises to show Himself strong on our behalf (2 Chronicles 16:9).     
 
Memorizing God’s word, learning about His character, and renewing our minds will boost our confidence in our prayer time.  As we acknowledge  and agree with His thoughts toward us – instead of our own evil thoughts about ourselves -  we position ourselves for faith to believe that He truly loves us and wants to do us good and not harm (Jeremiah 29:11).

Can you recall a time of which you cried out to the Lord with a broken and contrite spirit and asked Him for something specific of which He answered your prayer with great favor?
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According to today’s lesson, what can you do to practice having an effectual, fervent prayer life that has the power to touch God’s heart and move His hand?
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2 Chronicles 7:14


14  If my people, which are called by my name, shall humble themselves, and pray, and seek my face, and turn from their wicked ways; then will I hear from heaven, and will forgive their sin, and will heal their land.
9  For the eyes of the LORD run to and fro throughout the whole earth, to shew himself strong in the behalf of them whose heart is perfect toward him…

Mark 11:22-26:
   22And Jesus answering saith unto them, Have faith in God.
   23For verily I say unto you, That whosoever shall say unto this mountain, Be thou removed, and be thou cast into the sea; and shall not doubt in his heart, but shall believe that those things which he saith shall come to pass; he shall have whatsoever he saith.
   24Therefore I say unto you, What things soever ye desire, when ye pray, believe that ye receive them, and ye shall have them.
   25And when ye stand praying, forgive, if ye have ought against any: that your Father also which is in heaven may forgive you your trespasses.
   26But if ye do not forgive, neither will your Father which is in heaven forgive your trespasses.

HOMEWORK

Study Matthew 17:14-21 and Mark 9:14-29.  Ask God to teach you about the importance of believing His word.  Ask Him to teach you the principles of fasting for certain issues that cause you great concern.

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This Bible Study is one of many lessons created by Deborah Ross and Contributing Writers of the Woman2Woman: The Naomi & Ruth Bible Study.

By: Deborah Ross
Copyright@ Deborah Ross Ministries & Safer Communities Ministries
www.DeborahRossMinistries.org / www.mysafercommunities.org


Tuesday, April 24, 2012

Turning Generational Curses into Generational Blessings



10 Ways of Turning Generational Curses into Generational Blessings and Getting Rid of Strong Holds... once and for all!
- personal teaching notes of Deborah Ross

1)  Must be born again. 

John 3:3 "...Except a man be born again, he cannot see the kingdom of God."

Jeremiah 31:29-30, "In those days they shall say no more, The fathers have eaten a sour grape, and the children's teeth are set on edge. But every one shall die for his own iniquity: every man that eateth the sour grape, his teeth shall be set on edge."

2)  Transform our minds.    

Romans 12:2 - "And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, ..."

2 Corinthians 10:5 – Says, “taking every thought captive to the obedience of Christ”


3)  Uncover our OWN INIQUITIES and REPENT before we start blaming...
Luke 6:39-42  (also found in Matthew 7:1-5)
"And why beholdest thou the mote that is in thy brother's eye, but perceivest not the beam that is in thine own eye?"

4)  REALITY CHECK ... Know the Truth   

John 8:32  "And ye shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you free."   

Ezekiel 18:14-20 – You must RECOGNIZE the iniquity in your family tree and determine to do differently.  

Ezekiel 18:30-32 - Turn and LIVE!!!

Recognize it.
Call it what it is. 
Repent of it.
...Repentance – (means “change”, not merely remorse)

5)  GET AWAY... SEPARATE YOURSELF   
(from family traditions; from family mannerisms; from family sins; from family words spoken over you; from negative family expectations; from family patterns - such as: divorce, addictions, poverty, etc.; from all soul ties) - separate yourself from a lineage of sin 

Do not stop loving those family members who are in bondage, just stop all of your participation in their dysfunction.

Genesis 12:1-4
God told Abram (Abraham) to get away from his relatives and He would bless him and his seed (his offspring).


2 Corinthians 6:17  
"Wherefore come out from among them, and be ye separate, saith the Lord, and touch not the unclean thing; and I will receive you."

6)  WEAR THE DEVIL OUT!   

Daniel 7:25
"And he shall speak great words against the most High, and shall wear out the saints of the most High, and think to change times and laws: and they shall be given into his hand until a time and times and the dividing of time."

Luke 22:31
"And the Lord said, Simon, Simon, behold, Satan hath desired to have you, that he may sift you as wheat:"

7)  Walk in LOVE.  

1 Corinthians 13:1-8
*Remember - Everything hinges on LOVE

8)  We must appropriate (apply) the Word of God to our lives in order for God's mercy to be activated...

dictionary.com = to take to or for oneself; take possession of.

1 Samuel 15:22
"Behold, to obey is better than sacrifice, and to hearken than the fat of rams."


2 John 1:3
Grace be with you, mercy, and peace, from God the Father, and from the Lord Jesus Christ, the Son of the Father, in truth and love.


Proverbs 16:6
By mercy and truth iniquity is purged: and by the fear of the LORD men depart from evil.


Psalm 25:10
All the paths of the LORD are mercy and truth unto such as keep his covenant and his testimonies.


Psalm 85:10
Mercy and truth are met together; righteousness and peace have kissed each other.


Psalm 86:15
But thou, O Lord, art a God full of compassion, and gracious, long suffering, and plenteous in mercy and truth.


Everyone wants God's mercy, but not everyone wants God's truth. 

You can't have one without the other.

Generational Curses are broken when we live in TRUTH, OBEDIENCE and LOVE.

What INIQUITIES, GENERATIONAL CURSES, STRONG HOLDS do you recognize in YOUR family tree that need to be broken in your life?

9)  PASS THE TEST... APPLY THE BLOOD OF JESUS

Revelation 12:11 - 3 things for overcoming the devil: 
Blood of the Lamb - Word of Your Testimony - Love not Your Life unto the Death 

10)  CAST THE DEMONS OUT - Sometimes certain curses just need to have someone pray deliverance over the individual in order to cast the demon out of that person.

Mark 9:17-27   -  Jesus deals with what is apparently a generational curse (verse 21).  Jesus didn't have the boy confess the sins or iniquities of his ancestors, He just cast out the demons that entered in through the curse.

*More notes from verses Mark 9:28-29 - Sometimes we should go into prayer and fasting before praying deliverance over certain people so that we will have faith needed to cast out certain demons.

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Jesus already paid the price for YOU to be FREE when He died on the cross!


By FAITH, appropriate (apply) the blood of Jesus to YOUR LIFE and be free, once and for all! 


Walk in your freedom!

Galatians 3:13, "Christ hath redeemed us from the curse of the law, being made a curse for us: for it is written, Cursed is every one that hangeth on a tree

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To Read WHAT IS A GENERATIONAL CURSE - Click Here

TO READ MORE ON BREAKING THE CURSE CLICK HERE


This Study is From the Personal Teaching Notes of Deborah Ross www.DeborahRossMinistries.org
Mother in Zion Series



What is a Generational Curse?


- personal teaching notes of Deborah Ross -
WHAT IS A GENERATIONAL CURSE?

Perpetual sin (iniquity)... or, the results of perpetual sin that is passed from one generation to another. 

The effects caused by a generational curse doesn't necessarily mean that someone is not born-again.  A Christian can be a victim of Satan's evil devices, perhaps, because they have not yet learned how to walk in love, they are harboring unforgiveness or they need to repent of certain sinful "gates" that have allowed the enemy to occupy their soul.  In essence, they haven't learned how to appropriate the blood of Jesus for overcoming the presence, power and penalty of generational sin(s).

The generational curse can bring with it bondage, paralyzation, fear, torment, brokenness, sickness, isolation, inferiority and dysfunction (to name a few). 

Christians are given the power and authority to break free from the effects of all curses - once and for all! 

Jesus paid the price for us to be FREE INDEED! 

Galatians 3:13, "Christ hath redeemed us from the curse of the law, being made a curse for us: for it is written, Cursed is every one that hangeth on a tree:"

"And they overcame him by the blood of the Lamb, and by the word of their testimony; and they loved not their lives unto the death."

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Ezekiel 18:14-20

Ezekiel 18:30-32

Keys to Overcoming: RECOGNIZE / REPENT / RENOUNCE / REPLACE


Have you ever felt CURSED?  Bad Luck?  Nothing goes right?
If only I had this or that...
parents divorced...
feel tension between my parents & I...
feel different...
always broke, busted and disgusted...
born into an addictive or abusive family...
married an abuser or what seems to be a loser...
divorced...
my children are in rebellion...
how did I end up here?...
jail or prison...
why do I keep choosing sin?


Maybe you ARE experiencing a Generational Curse...
Or, Perhaps You Have Strong Holds of the Mind that need to be Torn Down


Exodus 20:5-6 – "... for I the LORD thy God am a jealous God, visiting the iniquity of the fathers upon the children unto the third and fourth generation of them that hate me; And shewing mercy unto thousands of them that love me, and keep my commandments."


Where do Generational Curses come from?
This is not an exhaustive list...

1)  Words spoken over you -

Proverbs 18:21- "Death and life are in the power of the tongue: and they that love it shall eat the fruit thereof."

2)  Ungodly traditions that are in your family heritage -


Colossians 2:8  - "Beware lest any man spoil you through philosophy and vain deceit, after the tradition of men, after the rudiments of the world, and not after Christ."

Mark 7:13 - "Making the word of God of none effect through your tradition, which ye have delivered: and many such like things do ye."

3)  Spiritual DNA passed down your blood line – iniquity & SIN, doubt & unbelief, worship of false gods, idol worship, weakness toward an addictive behavior, depression, spirit of fear, tendency toward sexual perversions, false religions, occult practices, witchcraft, voodoo, rebellion, anger, vulgar & abusive language, dishonesty, believing Satan's lies, laziness, pride, ignorance, anger, laziness, negativity, etc. (see scripture below)  

4)  Physical DNA passed down your blood line – cancer, diabetes, any health issue that your ancestors have had, alcoholism, drug addictions, pornography addictions, gambling addictions, adultery, rape, incest, abusive behavior, mental illness, offenses that you or your family were victims of, poverty, divorce, unhappy marriages, wishing death on others or on yourself, violent acts, murder, etc. (see scripture below)

5)  Cults / False Gods


2 Chronicles 33:1-6  -
"Manasseh did that which was evil in the sight of the LORD...  And he caused his children to pass through the fire (generational curse) in the valley of the son of Hinnom: also he observed times, and used enchantments, and used witchcraft, and dealt with a familiar spirit, and with wizards: he wrought much evil in the sight of the LORD, to provoke him to anger."

6)  Choosing a lifestyle of SIN...

All Iniquity, including - extortion, cursing, murder, lying, greed, lust, adultery, gambling, drinking & drugs, rage, hatred, bitterness, manipulation, pornography, rape, incest, worldly living, rebellion, false gods, idol worship, occult practices, witchcraft, etc. - These all can start a curse.  Maybe you started it, or maybe your parents or grandparents started it...  Break this pattern NOW through salvation and then by applying the power of the blood of Jesus to your life!

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Let's look at Strong Holds -
2 Corinthians 10:3-6

What is a Strong Hold? 

Wrong Thoughts
Wrong Attitudes
Wrong Perceptions
... that justify SIN or some GENERATIONAL CURSE in your family tree.

Strong Holds can develop from EXPERIENCES that have...
*offended you
*hurt you
*magnified you
*failed you
.......Then, we create walls (Strong Holds) in our minds.

We esteem these Strong Holds as truth in our minds, although they are not the truth when compared to God's Word.

Dictionary.com = 1) a well-fortified place; fortress. 2)a place that serves as the center of a group, as of militants or of persons holding a controversial viewpoint

Strong's Concordance:  fortress, hold, snare, strong hold, castle, net, strong place, hunted, fort, defense, fenced, stones, rock, cliff, security, fortified city  

Demonstrate FACT and TRUTH by holding up one hand to show the fact (listed below) and then by raising the other hand higher than the first hand to show how we should esteem the TRUTH above all of the FACTS...

*Fact:  I'm a Failure = Truth:  I can do all things through Christ!
*Fact:  My life is so messed up = Truth:  God's plans are to do me good and give me an expected end
*Fact:  I suffer depression = Truth:  God has not give me a spirit of fear, but of power & love and a SOUND MIND!
*Fact:  Can’t pay the bills = Truth:  He is Jehovah Jirah / my provider - He says I should be in health & prosper, even as my soul prospers 
*Fact:  Sickness and disease = Jehovah Rapha / my healer - all my diseases (Psalm 103:3)!
*Fact:  Trouble at work = Truth:  God will cause those that rise up against me in one direction to flee before me in 7 directions.
*Fact:  Husband / Wife left me = Truth:  God’s covenant of restoration – He will restore what the canker worm and locust have eaten.

Matthew 16:21-23 - Many Strongholds hide behind sympathy and fear.  (Also go back to verses 16-19)

The first Strong Hold that God must remove is PRIDE. 

Until someone is willing to admit that they need deliverance, they will never be free from their Strong Holds, Generational Curses, or Demonic Influence.
 
Keys to Being Free:
First, You must be BORN AGAIN, then...
RECOGNIZE / REPENT / RENOUNCE / REPLACE WITH GOD'S WORD 
Turn & Live!
- In Jesus Name!
- Do it NOW!

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See my next blog post for the continuation of this message entitled: 

Turning Generational Curses into Generational Blessings
Subtitle: 10 Steps to Breaking Generational Curses


ARTICLE ON BREAKING THE CURSE



This Study is From the Personal Teaching Notes of Deborah Ross
www.DeborahRossMinistries.org
Mother in Zion Series

Monday, April 23, 2012

Save it! Marriage Bible Studies with Deborah Ross




BIBLE STUDY CLASSES
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Save Your Marriage... Save Your Family! Everyone's marriage could use a tune-up. This study is a faith builder for those in good marriages and it is a life-line for those in bad ones. Participants learn how to defeat the power's of darkness so that their marriage doesn't just survive, but THRIVES... until death do they part. Topics like: Settle it in Your Heart; Forgiveness is a Commandment; What Men Need; What Women Need; Being Intentional About Your Marriage; Cold Love / No Love; Intimacy; Agape Love / Excel Them All; Root Digger (Pulling Down Strongholds & Breaking Generational Curses); Family Wholeness and much, much more. Deborah's book, Healing a Broken Marriage, serves as the reading material and at-home study guide for this class. Open to men and women - married, engaged, separated, and even those divorced who are praying for reconciliation. Based off of 1 Corinthians 13 - "Love Never Fails."  
There are 2 ways to take this study:  1)  Invite Jay and Deborah Ross to your church.  2)  Get Deborah's personal teaching notes and lead your own group.

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Mini Lesson for Today:

His Needs / Her Needs. 

In this lesson we learn that in a marriage the number one thing men crave most is RESPECT while the number one thing women desire most is SECURITY.  Are you giving your spouse what they need most?

The man's role is that of head of the household.  He should be the primary bread winner of the home - providing he is in good health. The primary role of the woman is to nurture the souls of the children and her husband while maintaining a peaceful, loving home environment for the family to come together in worship of the Lord. When we get our homes in Biblical order according to 1 Corinthians 11:3  (God - Jesus - Man - Woman, with the children coming under the man and woman leading in unison under Christ Jesus), we lay a solid foundation on which the Lord will supernaturally bless our families in great measure.  There is nothing wrong with the woman working to help support the family (if needed) as long as she puts her family first in all things.  This may mean that a professional corporate career needs to be put on hold until after the children are raised. 

In addition, husband and wife should practice submitting one to another in all things (Ephesians 5:21).  In doing so, each spouse seeks to please the other and arguments are put to a halt.  When conflict does arise, it is important to remember that winning is not important.  Listening to one another and then reaching a mutual agreement is always the goal.  If, after each person has voiced their opinions, it is still not possible to reach an agreement, women need to keep their perspective as being their husband's help mate (Genesis 2:18).  God will bless our families as our men rise to godly leadership.  Even when bad decisions are made, we can trust God to bring us through certain consequences with ultimate victory as we seek to establish our homes according to Biblcal principles.



It has been said that money, sex, and children are the number one arguments that lead to divorce. In order to solve money problems in marriage, both man and wife need to learn the importance of completely trusting God with their finances. He is a good God and He gives good gifts to His children. In fact, He even says that we can TEST HIM when it comes to tithing! Try Him and see if your 90% doesn't go a lot further as the Lord keeps the devil and his demons from stealing your finances that are available after tithing your reasonable service of 10% of all your income back to the Lord.   


It is so important that Christian's tithe and give offerings because God richly blesses those who do. It is a supernatural principle! Our money represents our life (our time) and God knows that our obedience to tithing is a true reflection of our FAITH in Him as not only Savior, but also as Lord, Master, Provider, etc.

When we hold our fists tightly closed and refuse to trust God with our money, we are really saying, "I am in control of my life. I don't trust in supernatural principles. I really don't trust that God will take care of my needs and my wants in this life. It doesn't make sense to me to tithe 10% when I am already having trouble in paying my bills, so God will have to help me get ahead, first, then I will tithe 10%"... Sorry friends, but it doesn't work that way in the Kingdom of God.

Then, if you ever get to a place in life where things are not making sense in your finances (yet, you are a tither) - like the loss of a job, or a lack of money - perhaps it is time for a promotion from God! Keep on tithing because you are probably experiencing a TEST from God and when all is said and done, you want to be found faithful in your obedience. Don't give the enemy any ammunition to use against you when it comes to your money. Trust God!!!

Lastly, it is important that you realize the following principles when it comes to money and God. Tithing is 10% of your income that should be given to your local church or the place where you are being fed the Word of God and experiencing fellowship. Offerings are different. Offerings are monies, time, talents and resources given above and beyond your tithe. Offerings can and should be given freely to anyone or any ministry whom the Holy Spirit lays upon your heart to give to. Keep in mind that God's superabundant favor (in the financial realm) will rest in your obedience to the Holy Spirit in giving offerings.

You see, you just cannot outgive God! He is the supplier of all of your needs... and wants. He owns it all. He will make sure that His children are well taken care of as they practice being GIVERS. So solve the marital hardship of financial woes by allowing God to completely take control of your finances. Be a tither... and a giver! Be like God. After all, He gave His very own Son.

Malachi 3:8-12
"Will a man rob God? Yet ye have robbed me. But ye say, Wherein have we robbed thee? In tithes and offerings. Ye are cursed with a curse: for ye have robbed me, even this whole nation. Bring ye all the tithes into the storehouse, that there may be meat in mine house, and prove me now herewith, saith the LORD of hosts, if I will not open you the windows of heaven, and pour you out a blessing, that there shall not be room enough to receive it. And I will rebuke the devourer for your sakes, and he shall not destroy the fruits of your ground; neither shall your vine cast her fruit before the time in the field, saith the LORD of hosts. And all nations shall call you blessed: for ye shall be a delightsome land, saith the LORD of hosts.


Luke 6:38
"Give, and it shall be given unto you; good measure, pressed down, and shaken together, and running over, shall men give into your bosom. For with the same measure that ye mete withal it shall be measured to you again."

Proverbs 11:24 
"There is that scattereth, and yet increaseth; and there is that withholdeth more than is meet, but it tendeth to poverty."


Throughout this study I pray that the Lord will speak to hearts so that each marriage will be strengthened for life-long victory in all things.   

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