Monday, April 23, 2012

Save it! Marriage Bible Studies with Deborah Ross


Save Your Marriage... Save Your Family! Everyone's marriage could use a tune-up. This study is a faith builder for those in good marriages and it is a life-line for those in bad ones. Participants learn how to defeat the power's of darkness so that their marriage doesn't just survive, but THRIVES... until death do they part. Topics like: Settle it in Your Heart; Forgiveness is a Commandment; What Men Need; What Women Need; Being Intentional About Your Marriage; Cold Love / No Love; Intimacy; Agape Love / Excel Them All; Root Digger (Pulling Down Strongholds & Breaking Generational Curses); Family Wholeness and much, much more. Deborah's book, Healing a Broken Marriage, serves as the reading material and at-home study guide for this class. Open to men and women - married, engaged, separated, and even those divorced who are praying for reconciliation. Based off of 1 Corinthians 13 - "Love Never Fails."  
There are 2 ways to take this study:  1)  Invite Jay and Deborah Ross to your church.  2)  Get Deborah's personal teaching notes and lead your own group.


Mini Lesson for Today:

His Needs / Her Needs. 

In this lesson we learn that in a marriage the number one thing men crave most is RESPECT while the number one thing women desire most is SECURITY.  Are you giving your spouse what they need most?

The man's role is that of head of the household.  He should be the primary bread winner of the home - providing he is in good health. The primary role of the woman is to nurture the souls of the children and her husband while maintaining a peaceful, loving home environment for the family to come together in worship of the Lord. When we get our homes in Biblical order according to 1 Corinthians 11:3  (God - Jesus - Man - Woman, with the children coming under the man and woman leading in unison under Christ Jesus), we lay a solid foundation on which the Lord will supernaturally bless our families in great measure.  There is nothing wrong with the woman working to help support the family (if needed) as long as she puts her family first in all things.  This may mean that a professional corporate career needs to be put on hold until after the children are raised. 

In addition, husband and wife should practice submitting one to another in all things (Ephesians 5:21).  In doing so, each spouse seeks to please the other and arguments are put to a halt.  When conflict does arise, it is important to remember that winning is not important.  Listening to one another and then reaching a mutual agreement is always the goal.  If, after each person has voiced their opinions, it is still not possible to reach an agreement, women need to keep their perspective as being their husband's help mate (Genesis 2:18).  God will bless our families as our men rise to godly leadership.  Even when bad decisions are made, we can trust God to bring us through certain consequences with ultimate victory as we seek to establish our homes according to Biblcal principles.

It has been said that money, sex, and children are the number one arguments that lead to divorce. In order to solve money problems in marriage, both man and wife need to learn the importance of completely trusting God with their finances. He is a good God and He gives good gifts to His children. In fact, He even says that we can TEST HIM when it comes to tithing! Try Him and see if your 90% doesn't go a lot further as the Lord keeps the devil and his demons from stealing your finances that are available after tithing your reasonable service of 10% of all your income back to the Lord.   

It is so important that Christian's tithe and give offerings because God richly blesses those who do. It is a supernatural principle! Our money represents our life (our time) and God knows that our obedience to tithing is a true reflection of our FAITH in Him as not only Savior, but also as Lord, Master, Provider, etc.

When we hold our fists tightly closed and refuse to trust God with our money, we are really saying, "I am in control of my life. I don't trust in supernatural principles. I really don't trust that God will take care of my needs and my wants in this life. It doesn't make sense to me to tithe 10% when I am already having trouble in paying my bills, so God will have to help me get ahead, first, then I will tithe 10%"... Sorry friends, but it doesn't work that way in the Kingdom of God.

Then, if you ever get to a place in life where things are not making sense in your finances (yet, you are a tither) - like the loss of a job, or a lack of money - perhaps it is time for a promotion from God! Keep on tithing because you are probably experiencing a TEST from God and when all is said and done, you want to be found faithful in your obedience. Don't give the enemy any ammunition to use against you when it comes to your money. Trust God!!!

Lastly, it is important that you realize the following principles when it comes to money and God. Tithing is 10% of your income that should be given to your local church or the place where you are being fed the Word of God and experiencing fellowship. Offerings are different. Offerings are monies, time, talents and resources given above and beyond your tithe. Offerings can and should be given freely to anyone or any ministry whom the Holy Spirit lays upon your heart to give to. Keep in mind that God's superabundant favor (in the financial realm) will rest in your obedience to the Holy Spirit in giving offerings.

You see, you just cannot outgive God! He is the supplier of all of your needs... and wants. He owns it all. He will make sure that His children are well taken care of as they practice being GIVERS. So solve the marital hardship of financial woes by allowing God to completely take control of your finances. Be a tither... and a giver! Be like God. After all, He gave His very own Son.

Malachi 3:8-12
"Will a man rob God? Yet ye have robbed me. But ye say, Wherein have we robbed thee? In tithes and offerings. Ye are cursed with a curse: for ye have robbed me, even this whole nation. Bring ye all the tithes into the storehouse, that there may be meat in mine house, and prove me now herewith, saith the LORD of hosts, if I will not open you the windows of heaven, and pour you out a blessing, that there shall not be room enough to receive it. And I will rebuke the devourer for your sakes, and he shall not destroy the fruits of your ground; neither shall your vine cast her fruit before the time in the field, saith the LORD of hosts. And all nations shall call you blessed: for ye shall be a delightsome land, saith the LORD of hosts.

Luke 6:38
"Give, and it shall be given unto you; good measure, pressed down, and shaken together, and running over, shall men give into your bosom. For with the same measure that ye mete withal it shall be measured to you again."

Proverbs 11:24 
"There is that scattereth, and yet increaseth; and there is that withholdeth more than is meet, but it tendeth to poverty."

Throughout this study I pray that the Lord will speak to hearts so that each marriage will be strengthened for life-long victory in all things.   

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